Let’s just start here: no one has ever guilted or shamed their way to better health.

Not once. Not ever. And yet that’s basically been the wellness industry’s whole business model.

This episode is the antidote to that.

I’m talking with Courtney Townley, health coach, author of The Consistency Code, and host of the Grace and Grit podcast, and we got into all of it. Not the plan. Not the protocol. The actual stuff underneath that nobody wants to talk about.

You’re not inconsistent. You’re outsourcing your life.

We hire experts and then just hand them the wheel. Courtney is not anti-expert. She’ll be the first to tell you healing is a team sport. But she’ll also be the first to tell you that no coach, no trainer, no nutritionist understands the wholeness of your life. That part is yours.

The question she keeps coming back to: based on what I know about myself right now, does this actually make sense for my life? A lot of times the answer is no. And being honest about that is where it starts.

Consistency doesn’t mean what you think it means.

It’s not three days a week, 45 minutes, forever. Courtney calls it consistent self-honoring. Your self-care looks different depending on what you’ve actually got to give that day. Some days you go heavy. Some days you take the walk. Both count.

Getting out of all-or-nothing thinking is the whole game.

Grace vs. excuse. Here’s how to tell the difference.

Two questions. How do you feel on the other side? An excuse comes with that low-grade friction. You know your reasons and you don’t like them. Grace feels settled.

And: does it keep you spinning, or does it help you pull back so you can push forward again? That’s the real test.

Health is the unbecoming.

This is the part I haven’t stopped thinking about.

We were talking about worthiness. About how nobody looks at a room full of babies and points to the one that isn’t worthy. And yet here we are, walking around like we’re the exception.

Courtney said it simply: so much of health is unbecoming the beliefs that were never yours. The conditioning. The stories. The self-soothing you had to do to survive stuff that wasn’t even your fault.

You are not building a new person. You are peeling back everything that got piled on top of the one who was already there.

That’s the work. And it’s worth doing.

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About Courtney Townley

Courtney Townley is a health and self-leadership coach, speaker, and host of the top-rated Grace & Grit podcast and the author of The Consistency Code. She helps midlife women cut through the noise of wellness culture and lead themselves with less overwhelm and more confidence. With over 30 years in the wellness industry, Courtney blends neuroscience, behavior change, and straight talk to show women that deep health isn’t about following someone else’s plan… it’s about learning to trust and lead yourself. A sought-after speaker and educator, she is known for her grounded, no-nonsense approach to sustainable change. When she’s not coaching or podcasting, you’ll find her salsa dancing, traveling, or soaking up time with her family and her Great Dane, Sully.

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JACKIE MACDOUGALL

Welcome to The Grown-Ass Woman’s Guide 2014 where we provide women with the tools, the space, and the accountability to stop spinning and start doing. I’m your host, Jackie MacDougall. We cover home, health, and wealth and all the adulting that keeps sliding to the bottom of your list. Today we’re talking about how to feel your best 2014 mind and body 2014 what consistency actually looks like, and we cut through the noise of wellness culture to help you create a more aligned, balanced approach to health.If you’re looking for an episode to guilt and shame you around diet and exercise, this ain’t it. I’m talking with Courtney Townley, a health and self-leadership coach, speaker, and host of the Grace & Grit podcast and the author of The Consistency Code. She helps midlife women simplify their approach to health and lead themselves with less overwhelm and more confidence. Courtney is a sought-after expert in her field. But that doesn’t mean you should outsource your life choices to her. She’s the first one to tell you that.

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