Welcome to Thrive in 40, a quick tip to kick start your week — in forty seconds or less. This week’s tip is provided by… Psychotherapist Melody Murray Parks.

Sometimes we take on things that have nothing to do with us. I do this thing called X it out. You make a list of all the things that are on your mind, everything that’s causing any kind of feeling or emotion, just write it down: My kid has autism, I could get fired, my husbands overweight, I can’t pay the rent, all that stuff that’s in your mind, write it all down. Put a big X over the shit you have zero control over. You can’t do something, and then put your energy into things that you can do.
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